“Once upon a time….”
This is usually how love stories in fairytales start.
In the real world, its:
“I met this girl on Monday
took her for a drink on Tuesday
we were making love by Wednesday
and on Thursday & Friday & Saturday we chilled on Sunday”
I love Tinder. And I love Craig David.
But seriously, we all have preconceptions on how love and relationships should be. How we were going to meet the one. How it will be rainbows and fairies with unicorns. You’re going to fall in love, date for a bit, then eventually get engaged then married.
However, we have forgotten the most important relationship of all.
A relationship with ourselves.
We put all our focus on defining ourselves with things: With our job, how many much money we have in the bank, how we look, and romantic relationships.
We put so much emphasis on trying to find the one, that we forget to find ourselves in the process. I strongly believe you need to love yourself before jumping into any sort of romantic relationship. People usually find themselves filling an emotion hole just with a “person” rather than dealing with their own personal issues. We’ve all had it or done it. e.g rebounds or emotionless sex.
But how liberating is it to feel completely content with how we are as ourself.
So how do we do this? By self discovery:
- Be content in any situation that we are in.
- Being thankful constantly for the good things in life and with what we have.
- Accepting the beautiful flaws that we have and embracing every little quirk that makes us, us.
- Learning new skills and/or taking up new hobbies.
- Pamper yourself: Go for a massage, get your hair cut, shop, watch the rugby.
- Go on a holiday. Maybe even going on a holiday by yourself.
- Striving towards that dream job that you’ve always wanted, even if itmeans having to quit your current stable job.
- Doing something good for somebody else because you felt like it, not because you’re obliged.
- Exercising as it makes you feel healthy and not just because you want to “loose weight”.
- Eating food that nourishes your body, not to feed your emotional habit.
- Seeking advice from a health professional to treat your illnesses.
- Allowing yourself time to heal when you’re sad or going through a hard time.
- Challenge yourself with something that is out of your comfort zone. You will be surprised.
- Take a break: go to the beach, take a hike. Enjoy nature’s wonders and it’ll make you a lot happier.
(Don’t compare yourself to someone else. Don’t do it for anyone else but yourself)
You are unique. You are you.
Take the time, even if it is for 5 minutes, everyday to do something for yourself.
You will thank me 🙂